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Special Feature – Happy 75th Anniversary

Vivian and Robert Duntsch met in Riverton, Wyoming in 1939, and love has blossomed through all the years!    At a recent visit by “Community & Elders Program” volunteers from St Gabriel the Archangel Episcopal Church to Orchard Park Health Care Center, it was revealed that this couple had two significant celebrations this year.  They are celebrating 75 years of marriage, and they are STILL SO in love!  It is beautiful to see such enduring love and very special companionship.  Robert is also celebrating his 100th birthday!  He is now blind, but his positive personality is such a light.  We thank Vivian and Robert and their son for allowing Bessie’s Hope to feature them and  join in their inspirational celebrations.

        

See Community and Elders Program and get your work place or organization involved.

Youth & Elders Program: DCIS at Briarwood

The Denver Center for International Studies partners with Bessie’s Hope to provide a meaningful intergenerational service opportunity for the students.  All activities through Bessie’s Hope are focused on volunteers doing things with the nursing home elders, not to them or for them.   Choices, decision making, and active participation help engage the elders at their highest level of cognitive functioning.  Communication and leadership skills are enhanced for the youth.   What joy is experienced by youth and elders, and both look forward to the next visit.  After the visit at which these photos were taken, one of the boys said, “Every kid needs to get to do this.  It’s important.”

      

Check out our Youth and Elders Program, get a group involved!

“Feeling Better/Feeling Sound” – Being aware of our relationship with sound and music—Part I

Being mindful of the impact of our “sound environment” is important to our health.  In caregiving settings, we also control the sound environment for those for whom we are providing care.

Sound affects us on a cellular level at all times.  Silent vibrations also affect us, but this blog will deal primarily with sound and music, with references to the other sources of vibration.  Sound waves are constantly interacting with our bodies and minds.  Often, it is as though sounds are competing for our attention, and without even knowing, this is producing a stressful effect emotionally, mentally and physiologically.

As we know, people have varying degrees of sensitivity to sound frequencies.  There is an engagement with these frequencies.  Our brains and psyches are constantly filtering the information, eg the furnace comes on and creates its sounds, and we peacefully sleep through it.  The alarm on the clock awakens us.  We enter the kitchen, and the refrigerator hums its greeting.  If we begin the day with deep breathing to oxygenate our cells, and exhale with a simple, calming vocalized humming or “Ahhh”, we can welcome the day feeling relaxed and calm.

The meanings of words have their own frequencies, and these words vibrating throughout body produce a nurturing response, such as a mother humming or singing to her baby.  So, we exhale “Peace”,  “Love”, “Joy” to create our own internal, cleansing shower.  Our brain, in turn, like switching on the lights, begins the bio/electrical/chemical response to the sounds and frequencies of those words.  Try “I am peace—I am love—I am joy.”

The brain is like a computer, which will give the reports based on the information we put in.  Thus, our day is begun with peace, love and joy.  In the education we provide to the Bessie’s Hope youth and adult volunteers, we explain that the brain can be tricked.  It doesn’t know the difference between a happening right now and the memory of the happening.  It gets busy dispersing the chemicals, as per above.  When our volunteers help create a happy memory for the elders we serve in nursing homes and assisted living communities, the bodies and minds are showered with the same “feel good” chemicals as when the “real” event happened, eg dancing 60 years ago with their first love.

Likewise, the brain can be programmed to begin our day with the good vibrations we sing or speak.  Our volunteers sing “The Wonderful Song” with the elders, and we suggest to the elders that they begin their day by singing, “I am wonderful, and this is a wonderful day.”

This has been a brief introduction of using our own voices for “sounding”, or “toning”, which was coined by Laurel Elizabeth Keyes in the 1960s.   These are sounds we are creating ourselves with our own intentions to nurture ourselves.  What if we use this in our care providing for elders in our homes, or their homes, or in elder care communities in which we work?  We enter the bedroom or the workplace with a smile.  Remember, the brain is putting out what we put in.  So, our smile comes out of our body in a vibration that the elder will feel as “I am happy to be here with you.”

Also, we are quietly, gently humming or singing a positive, slow to moderate tempo song.  Then, it will be from this smiling, “good vibrations” place that we say “Good morning, ___.  I hope you slept well last night.  Today is going to be a good day.” We have been given the sacred honor of caring for elders, those wonderful beings who have reached the time of ultimate respect.  They have so much to teach all younger generations.

What are some of their favorite songs you could sing with them? Remember what this will do for them—the nurturing vibrations within their bodies.  By the way, it doesn’t matter how you think you sing.  If it’s done on purpose from the heart with the intention to be of service—your voice will be received as though it came from an angel.

For those of you entering the elder care community but not providing the hands-on care, you are still contributing to the vibrational environment.  Before you enter, sing or speak, “I am peace, I am love, I am joy.  I am vibrating at these frequencies.”  Then, as you enter know that you have the honor to share the sacred space with elders.

While focusing on elder care, this also applies to anyone of any age for whom we have been called to serve.  We smile and make a positive difference in the lives of all with our good vibrations.

Next blog will address the use of recorded music.

Linda Holloway, Board Certified Music Therapist

Family & Elders – Kristina Benson

This program is a perfect volunteer opportunity for individuals and families to experience the most rewarding relationship with nursing home and assisted living elders who have little or no personal visitors. To get involved as a Family and Elders Program volunteer, go to that page on our website and fill out the application. Below is a story by one of our volunteers.


“It came up in conversation that Isidro had been an accomplished accordion player. I had an accordion at home, so I decided to bring it in on my next visit to see if he would like to play. When he saw the accordion, Isidro smiled, picked it up, and started playing beautifully. It was quite magnificent to see him shine. Many of the residents gathered chairs around him, and we all listened with joy as he played many songs he had memorized. Isidro said that the accordion was the “tool” he used when speaking for his church.

“It was so amazing to see him play, and he was fantastic, not missing one beat. This taught me a lot, because even though he is in a memory care facility, it was evident he still had not lost any of the memory relating to music or playing the accordion. I am grateful to have had the opportunity to share my love for accordion with Isidro. Thank you!” -Kristina Benson

Community & Elder Program – iHeart Radio

iHeart Radio’s talk show host, Bailey, created “Gifts for Grands”, which gives her listeners the opportunity to purchase gifts for nursing home elders who have no visitors. Each elder gets to make a Santa Wish List, so the gifts are especially for that individual. Bailey has partnered with Bessie’s Hope for four years to coordinate with nursing homes and gather the wish lists. For the listeners to be able to experience the joy of seeing the elders’ faces light up from opening their special gifts, Bessie’s Hope facilitates a “Getting to Know You” group session that is followed by the elders opening their gifts. In 2018, there were three nursing homes involved.

Youth & Elder Program – Hampden Academy at Chelsea Place


Hampden Academy students have been visiting their  Chelsea Place Memory Care grandpartners for over two years.  The relationships between the youth and elder are very special to both age groups.  Each monthly visit is like a family reunion, with laughter, hugs, singing, dancing, conversation and fun with whatever the planned activity for the day.

At the December visit, they participated in the Bessie’s Hope “Living History Project.”  All the youth interviewed one or more elders.  At their January visit, the youth will read over a mic their biographical sketches they have composed from the stories shared by the elders.   The youth may also choose to bring something they have created or found that is representative of what they learned about the elder.

 

The Brain VS Hydration

Why am I not remembering, thinking as clearly or tired in the middle of the day?

Water is essential for the efficient functioning of your brain!  Dehydration equals Brain Shrinkage!

Even a 2% drop in body water can trigger short-term memory loss, trouble doing basic math and difficulties focusing.

Your brain is comprised of 75% water!!

Did you know that 75% to 90% of seniors are in the ER for Dehydration!!!  Remember from my last article that seniors lose their thirst sensation to let them know they need water!

Drinking adequate water is just as important for the health of the brain as it is for the health of our bodies.  Your brain needs plenty of glucose, oxygen, water and other essential nutrients to function well.  If your brain doesn’t get enough of water, you might feel dizzy, fatigued and get a headache, and you’ll start to lose your ability to concentrate.  Studies have shown that a glass of water every hour while studying prevents fatigue and headaches.

Because your brain is 75% water, ample hydration is an absolute must.  When the water in your brain decreases, stress hormones are released.  These hormones block glucose, which is the primary fuel of the brain, from entering brain cells.  This in turn results in memory problems.

It is important to understand that even a minor amount of dehydration can raise stress hormones in the brain and damage your brain over time.

Excerpts from “Brain Tune Up” By Arnold Bresky, M.D.

Iva Lou Bailey, Founding Trainer of Dr. Bresky’s 9 Point Brain Tune Up System.

Weight VS Hydration

Do you think you are hungry??  Why the hunger pains and so much fat?  How would you like to stop your hunger pains and release the fat?

37% of Americans have such a weak thirst mechanism that they mistake it for hunger!

Nearly 100% of dieters had hunger pangs satisfied by drinking a glass of water.  Drinking 1 glass of water before a meal will help digestion.

Mild dehydration can slow down your metabolism by 3%.  Imagine what chronic dehydration does.  75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated.

NOW ABOUT THAT FAT!

Our Blood is made up of 83% water.  This is important because blood transports nutrients throughout our bodies and moves waste products to be excreted.  So without adequate water, our bodies not only starve, but are poisoned with the waste products that cannot be expelled.

Our blood carries waste products to our kidneys, after which are expelled from the body through our urine.  If the body senses there isn’t enough water available, however, it reacts by retaining what water it has already.  What happens next is that this stored water gets contaminated with waste.  Why?  Because the Kidneys have no way to release the toxins.

When this occurs, the job of clearing waste shifts to the liver, which is already working hard to clean out our blood.  When it takes on some of the work of the kidney, the liver can’t work as efficiently.  And guess what one of the liver’s most important jobs is?  BURNING FAT!  So when it is overloaded the stored fat can’t be burned and the body will hold onto what water it has.  Thus, WEIGHT GAIN OCCURS.

Iva Lou Bailey
Owner/President
Argus Home Health Care
ivalou@argusofcolo.com

Youth & Elder Program: DOOR at Brookdale & St Francis Center at Franklin Park

Summer is busy for Bessie’s Hope!  We are honored to partner with organizations like DOOR and St. Francis Center, which host volunteer youth groups from across the country that have come to Denver to participate in community service.  Bessie’s Hope provides education and training to the hundreds of youth and adults in these program, and we coordinate and facilitate their life-changing visits with our nursing home and assisted living elders.  This summer alone we worked with groups from Arkansas, Texas, Minnesota and many more!

One group visiting at our elder care partners had several talented musicians who played the guitar and led the elders and volunteers in sing-alongs.  The voices of young and old alike filled the space with joy at just being together.  Another group had an adult leader who felt drawn to sit and chat with one of the elders and, as they chatted, found that both were below the knee amputees.  They were able to discuss all that they had been through and found strength in sharing that bond with each other.

These stories of connections represent the heart of our work.  We bring all generations together and remind each other that we are valuable.  We all have stories to tell. We have so much to learn from each other. and the work continues.

Do you know a school or youth group that needs to be a part of the Bessie’s Hope magic?  Click here to learn more about our Youth & Elders Program.